Quick and East Techniques to Stop Self-sabotage

Today is our last blog of the month and I want to finish up the topic of self-sabotage with two more techniques you can use to stop self-sabotage on its tracks. 

Let's start with setting goals. Setting small goals will make you feel more accomplished and in control of your 

life. This is a particularly helpful way to combat self-sabotaging actions because it fights feelings of low self-worth and keeps you motivated and moving forward in a positive direction.

Don’t be afraid to make lists. Perhaps take a moment to pick out a planner to write down your notes and thoughts. Start with small obligations, doing laundry, grocery shopping, or picking up dog food. Crossing something off of your to-do list is fulfilling in its own weird little way, I promise.

Stop yourself from making assumptions and judgments. It’s natural to try to analyze and assess people and situations to make sense of our surroundings. The danger lies in allowing your imagination to wander too far, leading to the ‘worst-case-scenario,’ which causes anxiety, frustration, and fear.

Furthermore, the assumptions you make about the way people feel about you are often reflections of how you feel about yourself. After all, you’re getting that harmful material from somewhere...your own self-sabotaging thoughts!

If you’re feeling ignored, alone, or abused and your first thought is, ‘They treat me this way because ______,’ or ‘They must think that I’m ____,’ what you’re actually doing is projecting your own feelings about yourself. ​

If this behavior goes unchecked and you don’t realize that you’re making silly assumptions, you will actually trick your mind into making false judgments about other people. ​

When you start assuming negative things, you attract negative thoughts. To fix this pattern, try and catch yourself- then distract yourself with something else that you enjoy.

Keep your days simple and meaningful. Don’t let yourself get overwhelmed with things that aren’t a priority to you, and don’t waste your time on things that don’t really matter. Learn how to say no and start getting used to delegating duties to people around you. Take time for yourself to do the things you enjoy.  Do you like cooking? Make sure to set some time aside to make yourself a nice meal once a week. Do you enjoy spending time with animals? Carve out an hour to visit/volunteer at the animal shelter this weekend.

Alrighty there you have it, a few more simple techniques you can easily apply to your life to help you stop self-sabotage. Remember, do not get discouraged if your life does not change immediately. Change takes time and practice, so do not give up and do not judge yourself when you find yourself stuck. Be kind to yourself and start again.

I'm always here to help if you have any questions regarding self-sabotage email me at Toni@drToniCamacho.com. Oh and before I leave you. I want to remind you that we are in the midst of the cold/flu season keep your immune system strong by eating healthy and taking herbal supplements. Click here to check out my amazing herbal cold/flu supplements.

Until next week,
Toni