Most of the people I talk to have the same desire: to be happy. However, we sometimes attach happiness to achievements, but these moments and feelings may be fleeting. Generally, we’re not taught that true happiness takes effort; it’s not just something that happens to you.
When trying to make ourselves happy, it's easy to get wrapped up in accomplishing goals or holding ourselves to ever-greater standards of perfection. But in reality, this is not the path to happiness. Believe me, I've been there, and it does not work long term, not to mention you get wrapped up in a never-ending loop of accomplishing it is a never-ending cycle that in the end only stresses you out because you are never done accomplishing. There is always something "out there" that you are trying to reach.
If you've ever said, "I'll be happy when ___," you're in good company. The problem is happiness isn't something you achieve or obtain. It's a state of being. So stop putting off being happy, and accept yourself as you are right now.
You don't have to like everything about yourself or your current situation. But, accepting who and where you are will give you the freedom to be happy now, and will bring you closer to achieving those lofty ambitions.
It's important to have goals and something to work towards. However, placing unrealistic expectations on yourself will only set you up for failure. Instead of setting a goal of making a certain amount of money by a certain age, make it a challenge for yourself, and set smaller goals to get you there.
The same goes for relationship goals and self-image. You can choose to be happy today, right now, but accept your life as it is rather than how you think it should be.
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Dr. Toni is a Best-selling author, Holistic Health Practitioner (HHP) & Registered Herbalist in San Diego, California. She holds a PhD in psychology, and a Clinical Herbalist Certificate, an HHP certificate and is a Certified Trainer in the Success Principles. In private practice as a HHP she has been influenced by a variety of clinical modalities and orientations, and by the diverse life experiences of her clients. Toni’s approach to healing is holistic & transpersonal. In her work, she integrates the principles of Eastern and Western nutrition, herbololgy, energy medicine, Buddhist mindfulness and personal counseling to assist others in working through their physical or emotional blocks to attain optimal health.